Friday, May 16, 2014

You Might Be Married to an Indian if....

As your relationship progresses, you will undoubtedly find yourself doing some uniquely Indian things. Here's a few many things of the pardesi women I know have admitted to being caught doing.

  • You randomly throw in a Punjabi (or Hindi, Tamil, etc.) word while speaking English to non-Indians. 
  • You know how to define and explain the aforementioned word.
  • Your life's goal is making a perfectly rounded and puffed chapatti.
  • You no longer feel a meal is complete without a roti (or rice if you're married to a South Indian). 
  • You never miss making morning (or evening) chai. Not even on the hottest summer day!
  • You have designated certain days of the week as vegetarian food only. 
  • The Indian head wobble has worked its way into your body language unintentionally.
  • You're fluent in Indian English and don't realize what you're saying wrong when you accidentally speak it. 
  • You are always prepared for unexpected guests.
  • You know the difference between party wear, casual outing and daily wear salwar kameez but don't actually own any daily wear suits (otherwise known as house clothes).
  • You have purchased a Squatty Potty to make up for the ills of a western toilet.
  • There are cups under your bathroom sink for your in-laws use but you can't explain why to you friends, you just have to warn them not to use them.
  • Your kitchen cabinets are labeled in Punjabi or Hindi.
  • You secretly love seeing the shock on an Indian's face when you start speaking their language.
  • You know how to wrap a sari - without help - but you don't because it would ruin a quality bonding experience with your MIL.
What are some other things you do that you feel are unique to a pardesi spouse?

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  1. You find yourself running late for everything ... No food is complete without green chili peppers ... You wear white to funerals ...

  2. It's great you have figured out about the difference in formal and informal salvaar kamiz. I am still not too familiar with that.

    Though my Indian family are south Indian, they speak in Hindi. Though that's true, we labeled our cupboards in Malayalam in the US.

    The vegetarian/non-vegetarian thing doesn't apply to everyone :)...

  3. Suggesting going to gurdwara just because you are hungry for some really good Indian food and don't feel like cooking

  4. I tried to keep the list broad so it applied to more people but wasn't exclusive. These are things I've gleaned from being in the community as well as my own thoughts.

    I'm sure if you know more about formal and informal sari's than I do since that's more common in the south.

  5. Good point!! Yeah, makes sense. This is a good list, and I do agree that it can apply to a wide range of people. Too bad you can't make it into a quiz... for instance if you get more than 7, then yes, you are married to an Indian.. etc etc. Just for fun :)

  6. Alexandra MadhavanMay 24, 2014 at 2:23 AM

    I often say ingredients by their Indian names like "haldi", or "jeera", or "mirchi", and my aunts get so confused LOL.
    Whenever anyone has a cut, I immediately put on the "haldi"!
    Sometimes I feel like I am so Indian when I am with my non-Indian friends. They just don't get it.....LOL!

  7. Lol. I've done the same. Some things are just easier to say in an Indian language. Like haldi instead of turmeric. Also, jeera aloo sounds more appetizing than cumin potatoes. :P

  8. Finally, the comment section is open. It is so frustrating. I can see the number of comments but cannnot access the comment section. It has almost redered you blog useless for me. Is that only I am having problems. I suggest you have a serious discuss with the disque guys. This is getting way out of hand.

  9. I've gotten over 100 comments since your last one and no one else had problems. I'm not able to find anything wrong when I open it on either Chrome or Firefox so I'm not sure. I did change the ads after your last comment but that doesn't seem to have fixed it either. Try clearing your cookies, cache, history, etc. and see if that doesn't help you.

  10. BTW, how was your experience with the dreaded "Squat Toilet" the most formidible obsctable faced by a foreigner in India and also the unique "Bucket Bath". Some say that "Squat toilets" have health benefits. After reading these blogs, I now look at my squat toilet and bucket in the bathroom with great respect. I never knew these are cultural icons. I was vaguely aware that we do things different form foreigners but never thought of it as something earth shattering.

    Oh, how is you husband?? Hope is keeping good health and adjusting to his new life.

  11. thanks for share. t thinks i need itss