Tuesday, March 25, 2014

Removed

I wanted to post a brief message to dispell any rumors that may ignite, as I've found is common amongst the living. :)

I've removed my last post titled "Dominance." Before posting it, hubby and I had discussed how to proceed with discussing our past year here on the blog. Both he and I wanted to help others and part of that means sharing things that are less than ideal. He was a bit apprehensive but thought that talking about his culture shock may help others who deal with similar situations of feeling out of control.

However, he wasn't prepared for some of the comments that came in. He's not as thick-skinned as I am so after we discussed those, he asked me to take it down and I've respected his wishes.

Yes, we struggled a lot over the last year and at times both of us behaved badly. It took us a while to sort things out but we resolved those issues months ago. A few of my readers were confused as to whether or not the posts were fresh as well and they weren't. So I'm going to refrain from posting too many older posts to avoid any more confusion as well.

I'm working on some new blog post ideas and time-permitting, I'll post as I can. I may not be here as regularly for a while. I'm barely able to find time to get online these days. Work has picked up, I'm still job searching for something less involved but equally as satisfying and I'm excited to say there are going to be 2 new additions to the family this year. So my plate is FULL to say the least.

Still, I have no intention at this time of abandoning this blog. But for now, I'm going to center more on me and my navigation of this relationship as there are some challenges I face because of myself and my own issues that someone out there may find my example helpful in dealing with their own issues.

24 comments:

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  3. Alexandra MadhavanMarch 29, 2014 at 5:38 PM

    I liked the post, but I totally understand where you're coming from!

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  4. I couldn't imagine living anywhere other than the US. I can only imagine how stressful it would be.

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  5. That strategy works well for some people. I found that for me it helped to write about both good and bad. It helped me step back and be more focused on how to make things better and how to manage things better.

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  6. I would love to visit a country that Ive never been to. Living there is another thing. lol

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  7. I've lived in several States in the US and we are planning on taking our son to live in Puerto Rico in a few months (I don't even speak Spanish!) I relate to the culture shock process even though I haven't left the US. It can be very hard!

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  8. You are right about support being helpful. Everyone needs a good support system.

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  9. I sometimes imagine living else where but think oh my I wouldn't be able to do this or that, so I don't think I could personally do it - completely admire those who do :) x

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  10. I think it's best to handle life head on too. When I traveled to Vietnam to adopt my son, we were there for less than a week and were so distracted by all the things we had to get done for the adoption I think the culture shock was quite minimal. If we had been there longer or a more typical time frame of 2-3 weeks I'm sure it would have been much greater.

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  11. Yes, this is so true! I went thrift poetry much all of those moments when I went to Turkey. Very beautiful but I had such culture shock and then when I got home I was still stressed out from the trip. It didn't help that I was injured and stick during my journey, which was only a 2 week vacation. I couldn't imagine moving now.

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  12. When I moved from Jamaica to New York everything was so different, it was a huge culture shock. It wasn't easy for me as a child.

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  13. Onica {MommyFactor}March 31, 2014 at 4:05 AM

    I many people dont but I like the idea of living in a different country and culture. Yes there's some adjustment but also a chance to make good memories.

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  14. It's hard enough to travel to another country for vacation, so I couldn't even imagine traveling to live there. I agree that a support system is the best way to help you through it.

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  15. When moving from small town Kansas to big city Pennsylvania I thought I went through some culture shock. I am about to move to Florida this summer and I know I'm in for something way new. I couldn't imagine moving to another country.

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  16. Yes it can! I didn't speak the language in India either. I did find that hindered me somewhat but I still did okay without it. BUT, I had help.

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  17. You're right. Being busy is a huge benefit when trying to face the shock. I tried to keep myself busy too, distraction is beneficial in this case.

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  18. I sympathize! I stayed sick in India and that really ruins things for you. That's the prime reason I came back home.

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  19. I can only imagine! New York would be a huge adjustment for anyone.

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  20. That's a great point! When we're not consumed by the stress from the culture shock, the memories we make are fabulous!

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  21. I moved from North Carolina to Florida and it was a pretty big shock for me. I hated Florida for so long because the traffic was different, the lifestyle was different. Everything I grew up knowing didn't work there. But now that I'm gone, I think it's the best place I ever lived.

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  22. I can't even imagine. We moved from a larger city to a smaller one..culture shock too! Amber N

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  23. Oh when we moved from NYC to CO it was a shock to our system. Gone was our public transportation, our corner store deli. Instead we had to drive EVERYWHERE! Sometimes change is good!

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  24. That's a very good point! Where I live now there's little access to taxi's and public transportation - if any. My husband is from a larger city where everything is close to begin with but taxi's, trains, buses and more are available and usually parked within seconds walk of your home. Those two scenario's are a major contrast and hard to adjust to.

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