Wednesday, May 23, 2012

Farewell India

I managed to do it. All of it. In spite of how lethargic I've been the past few days I managed to get all of my work done (to a stopping point anyway) and get everything packed and get my final night planned. I'm not doing anything but lounging around watching movies and eating my malai tikka and butter naan. I'm not running  the streets shopping, no dining out. Just simple and relaxing time at home.

I've waited for this moment for far too long. I don't ever recommend to anyone to come to India, move into a joint family, and have no plans of visiting their family for over a year. It's too much for any one person to take in. Though many of the things here may seem small, they add up and become torturous and unbearable. Even simple things make you very angry. And when you have to deal with 100 or more simple things daily and non-stop it eats away at you.

Even though I know things at home won't be perfect - um, I'll be living with my parents which I think speaks for itself - I'm looking forward to a different and very limited set of challenges. A sense of normalcy and no more crazy, childish drama. No more tension in the household (well, other than my foster sisters). I look forward to spending my days talking to other women in person. That's something I haven't been able to do much since being here. I've maybe been on 15-20 gori-dates where I had English socialization in about 500 days. So imagine that, I've only had about 20 girl talk conversations in over a year. That level of isolation is fairly extreme.

I'm really looking forward to a spa day at a good spa. The Vietnamese really have the market cornered for that where I come from. You get a full body massage as part of your pedicure and their hospitality is awesome. I look forward to BSing with my hair stylist and getting a good haircut with no oil or excessive staring involved. I look forward to the peace of not having eyeballs on me constantly.

This is the most peace I've had in over 16 months.


  1. Look forward to hearing how it goes!
    On our vso departure training, they said returned volunteers found it harder settling back in. 

  2. Have a safe trip and make the most of your time away! x

  3. Bravo, Kristy. You have earned your peace!

  4.  I hope you have a wonderful time there. My first time on your blog. Before reading it, I thought my life as a typical Indian bahu was diffciult, but I cannot even imagine how it must be to be in your shoes. God bless you and hope you make more friends soon. If I was in Amritsar, would have met you definitely! :) Take care.

  5. Interesting. I will let you know if I have trouble.

  6. Thank you! I think all of us bahu's have it rough don't we?