Last week I organized a sort of mini-kitty party for a few of the local gori's here in Amritsar. There weren't enough of us here to really raise the roof on a place but that's not what's important lol. It's taken a long time for me to find enough people to get together in a group. Not everyone was able to come yesterday either so in the end it was just 3 of us.
One of the girls remarked at how we all got to talk instead of just two of us talking and the other being left out. One of the girls husbands dropped in to check on us a few times and he only added to the fun. He was witty and intelligent and it was so cute to see how they interacted with each other. I think she was absolutely right when she told me she had met her match.
Of course, it was quite a scene for all of us to be there like that and we did some attention to ourselves but the day was amazing. We shared our stories and thoughts and ideas and talked about our homes, our jobs, our lives, our husbands, our families and so much more.
One of the girls and I joke often about the kitty parties that go on at this restaurant and how loud they can be so up until this meeting we would have a laugh that one day we're going to get an all gori (or pardesi) kitty party together and show these aunties how it's done. I think we were doing quite well until the lunch rush started and a couple of groups came in. One of them was much louder than us. I was concerned at one point that I wouldn't be able to hear everything the other girls were saying because that table got so loud, but thankfully I did hear everything.
We wound up taking up the valuable real estate at that table for almost 4 hours! Not once did the conversation become awkward (as it can between strangers sometimes), there was never a silent moment (we even talked while reading menus lol) and I don't think any of us felt left out of any part of any conversation. Even when the husband showed up he was able to jump right in and we never missed a beat and he entered the conversation seamlessly.
This was unlike any other social gathering I've been to before - including in the US. Typically it takes a few minutes to get the conversation flowing and then the hostess usually jumps in and starts things off with an ice breaker. At this meeting the girls introduced themselves before I even had a chance. This made me happy because I had previously thought they would get along well and as it turns out, I wasn't wrong. I can't wait to have more get-togethers like this and hopefully our numbers continue to grow. That way we can be louder and over talk the aunties.