Saturday, November 26, 2011

War Stories Day 2

After the geyser incident I had a discussion with hubby first. I needed to calm myself down because no good solution is ever reached when you're too angry to convey yourself in a respectable manner. Hubby didn't want to believe me at first but then I reminded him of other incidents. Now, mind you I was angry when I was talking to him and I said everything standing less than 10 feet away from Chachi. So I said some really mean things about how stupid they were and how they could kill people in the house, etc. (Just a note...hubby and I did not argue, though he didn't think it could be true - of course he had no way to cover for his family because he wasn't home either.)

I waited for him to arrive home, we discussed it again and decided on a plan of action. We both agreed he needed to talk to his parents but that before we made accusations we needed to check the gas line. Okay, I will give him that, I wouldn't want anyone to say the gas fumes could have come from faulty lines and that kind of thing does happen. Since we weren't talking over the phone I got a much better chance to describe to hubby all the details of the morning. (Keep in mind I'm a trained criminal justice investigator so I a very observant of my surroundings.) I was also able to remind hubby of something else that happened in the morning and then it clicked for him that I couldn't be exaggerating or imagining this. We agreed to discuss this with his parents.

Now, this isn't going directly to the source of the problem but will be very effective. Only once have I seen or heard MIL use a scary tone since I've been here. That was a while back and I don't know all the details but she was putting Chachi in her place. The two didn't speak for almost a week but Chachi was very friendly afterwards and I noticed her doing a lot more around the house. (Obviously MIL is only sweet if you don't get on her bad side.) FIL on the other hand will get loud more often. I've seen him put Uncle ji in his place on more than one occasion and he's never backed down to Uncle ji. FIL is the oldest son and this house is his. During one argument he has told Uncle ji to get out and he wasn't just bluffing. Guess who came graveling back...just a hint, it wasn't FIL.

So right in front of Chachi and Uncle ji and nephew hubby told his mother. There was a deafening silence in the house. I don't speak Punjabi enough to know what else has been said but I know now that MIL and FIL are involved things will be settled real quick. I'm still following the situation and the family discussions as best I can but I do have to wait for hubby to be off work to find out what all has went on during the day. I know MIL and Chachi haven't spoken to each other all morning - they didn't even sit together for their morning Indian drama show. Uncle ji even seems to be avoiding the areas of the house where MIL is at. Yep, I'm enjoying it....but I am not done yet.

Hubby has now taken my side. As it turns out he busted Uncle ji this morning - having been under the assumption that no one ever touches the geyser but me and him he found Uncle ji using it this morning. Now he sees they are more familiar with the settings than he thought. So while Uncle ji was in the shower, hubby turned the geyser off. That was the best 5-10 minutes of my day knowing he was down there with only cold water.

Of course, all this hasn't stopped Uncle ji and I can only assume he was trying to redeem himself this morning. Since we specifically mentioned the smell of gas around the steps yesterday he sat outside revving up his scooter for almost 20 minutes this morning. He was pushing that gas pedal hard too. Funny thing is he doesn't work on Saturdays and he didn't leave the home. I think (only think...I didn't ask and I can't prove it) that he was trying to pretend the gas smell could have come from his scooter as he was leaving for work yesterday. Maybe it's wishful thinking but I would like to believe he's running scared right now and trying to reclaim his good standing. It makes me feel better to think that way.

I will keep you updated. Oh...and before I forget..I decided against confiscating the netbook every day. Instead I completely took the router out of the house. Wifi doesn't exist here anymore and there is no more drama over whether or not we should share it with them. So the overall situation today is - kids and Uncle ji are home and there is no wifi, the families are not speaking...and they don't have enough 3D glasses to watch their tv together - sounds like a really boring day for them. And I am not done with them yet.

12 comments:

  1. WTG girl! I must say I would have loved to see the look on uncle-ji's face suddenly running out of hot water.
    And the pushing on the gas on his scooty to hope it could proove the gas smell origin wrong...LAME does he realise they don't even smell the same in the first place.
    And great job on taking away all the privilege, if they can't act nice they shouldn't have them, and that's how you treat kids who can't behave :)

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  2. Well done! I'm cheering for you from halfway across the world! Uncleji needs to be put in his place. Keep us updated :)

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  3. Exactly!! And since I'm a woman and not that far behind him in age I'm certain I'm more mature. (He was the baby of the bunch out of 5 or 6 kids.)

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  4. Oh I will! I don't have much else to do but share the drama lol.

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  5. Rohits Chacha is nuts. I couldnt live in a joint family where theres so much mutual dislike... tell him straight to stay out of your face or you'll bust his balls!

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  6. Lol. I busted them already! FIL hit him right where it hurts the most - the wallet!

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  7. Loved this post. Like Gayatri I am totally cheering for you. Uncle ji is no good.

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  8. To know the situation better, how old is uncleji and how old is his son ?

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  9. Nephew is 14 and I believe Uncle ji is in his late 30's or very early 40's.

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  10. I'm loving this desi drama, and especially your sweet victory!! :-)

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  11. :D It's so much better than Big Boss....which I'm being tortured with at the moment lol.

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